Category: Perfectionism & People Pleasing
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How to Set Healthy Boundaries
Do you have a clear sense of your boundaries? Or do you struggle to identify that a boundary has been crossed until later — after the point you feel exhausted or resentful? If you DO have a clear sense of your boundaries (go you!), do you know how to communicate them in a way that brings…
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3 Ways to Foster Your Mental & Emotional Wellness
How are you? How are you really? Have you taken a sec to attune to yourself yet today? Take a deep breath, close your eyes if you’re comfortable, and check in with your thoughts, emotions and physical body: Where do you feel tension, sensation, heaviness, lightness? Are your thoughts calm or racing? What emotions are you…
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Guiding Principles of Self-Care: 10 Tenets
What would self-care look like in your life if it stopped being about what you should do and became about what you need and desire? I know that self-care can feel like just another item on your ever-growing to-do list. And that when you don’t do it you can feel guilty. But my approach is…
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Monthly Intention Reset
So many of my clients and students tell me that life feels like a juggling act and they’re constantly dropping balls. If they focus too much on one, they drop two others. Can you relate? I sure can. And one thing that helps me find acceptance when I feel like I’m/my life is falling apart…
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Life is not all about being productive (toxic productivity)
While I don’t claim to know what the meaning of life is, there is one thing I know for sure: Life is not all about being productive…(in the effortful sense of the word). After-all, it’s true that “productive” things can happen with little to no effort. Important things, like tiny seeds growing into towering oaks…
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3 Phrases NOT to Live By
Years ago I read this phrase on a matcha green tea bottle cap and snapped a picture: Good things come to those who hustle. (I spent 10-minutes looking for the picture to share with you, but gave up because I realized I was just procrastinating.) I used to live by phrases like these — back when I was brainwashed to believe that my…
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How to live and work from a place of worthiness
As Ryan and I made our way west to Whatcom County, WA last week I found myself reflecting on self-worth, specifically: what it means to engage in life from a place of worthiness. (A question raised by Brene Brown in her audio session “Men, Women and Worthiness”.) It seems that us humans are constantly trying…
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The Link Between Shame & Perfectionism
“Shame is the birthplace of perfectionism.” – Brené Brown Ooof, this hit me hard. As a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I know a lot about shame — i.e., feeling like I’m not enough. The truth is, I spent a lot of my life feeling like I wasn’t good enough — smart enough, pretty enough,…
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10 Tips for Cultivating & Protecting Your Mental & Emotional Health
1.Say NO Before agreeing to everything under the sun, check in with how you’re feeling. Allow yourself to say no when you instinctively know or feel you have too much on your plate. And if you accidentally over-extend yourself, it is OK to change your mind, re-schedule, delegate, or have a conversation about how you…